Best Moves for 2012

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With your list of resolutions for self-improvement in hand for the coming year — how will you create the conditions for success?

Moshe Feldenkrais said that one important quality of “good” movement is the ability to move in any direction at any time, without adjustment or preparation. Think of the martial artist, poised to field multiple attackers coming from multiple directions. . .

The Feldenkrais Method helps people to be more self-reliant, more resilient, more adaptive — and more effective in daily actions. New Year’s resolutions usually address an awareness of “stuckness” in some aspect of life: a prior and persistent failure to change something (break a habit, lose weight, save money, be nicer) that you believe would make a significant difference in your quality of life. If you haven’t been able to move in the desired direction, perhaps you could benefit from learning more about movement itself.

Find a Feldenkrais teacher near you. Our classes, lessons, and workshops can support you in your self-improvement goals, whatever they are. We’re excited to bring you new programs and new opportunities for leaning in 2012. Check us out — you’ll wonder what kept you!

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7 Ways to Get Out of Pain – Naturally

Hang around on this planet long enough, and Life will eventually deal you some pain and unpleasantness.  My feeling is, we get plenty of it without asking, just by showing up.  We certainly don’t need to go looking for it, or inviting it in the door.  If you’re a hard-core WHATEVER, my ideas here might offend you.  The  pursuit of extreme endurance and physical punishment is your choice — have a good time. However, it is a dangerous and completely inappropriate lifestyle for people who have real pain.

For people  with chronic or persistent pain (including emotional pain), it’s reality and it’s non-stop. There is no glory in hurting, and pain adversely affects your life. You MUST liberate yourself from our senseless “No Pain, No Gain” culture that drives you to ignore your common sense, your physical sensations, and your own well-being in pursuit of a bogus promise that pain will make you better.  Even if you simply have occasional aches and pains, here are seven techniques that can help you find your way out of pain — naturally.

Disclaimer.  This ain’t magic.  As my colleague Irene Gutteridge says, “Slow and steady wins the race.  Quick fixes are man-made. Not Nature-made.  Real change requires time.  Not impatience.”  Engage with the process, give it some time, keep an eye out for changes — and you can get out of pain.

1. Whatever you’re doing — stop.
You don’t have to stop it forever, just stop for right now. Just for a few minutes, for Pete’s sake.  Stop.  Really.
It’s like the old joke:
“Doctor, it hurts when I do this.”  
“Stop doing that.”
Stop for a moment, and feel all the muscles that have snuck up on you to wind themselves into a frenzy of tension.  Take a break to REST — 10 minutes, a few hours, a day — and you’ll be stronger and more comfortable when you continue.

2.  Slow down.
Perhaps you can’t stop what you are doing immediately.  Take a few moments to notice the rhythm of what you are doing.  See what happens if you slow down.  Does the movement feel more difficult, or more easy, at the slower pace? If you slow down, you can actually feel what you are doing. You might notice that you are working harder than you need to for the task.  Slow down and see if you can streamline the movement with a minimum of muscular effort.  You may need a few tries to “dial it down.”  Taking time to slow down can make your movements more pleasurable.

3.  Keep breathing.
Chances are,  you’ll find you’ve been holding your breath, or just barely breathing.  Notice what you are doing, before you try to change it.  Pay attention to your breathing as you continue.  Experiment with what works for you:  does it seem to make sense, or feel better, if you inhale during the action?  How does it feel to exhale during the action?  You may find a way to synchronize your breathing with what you are doing so that you are immediately more comfortable.  Your muscles and your brain need oxygen, in steady supply, and on a regular basis, to function well.  Notice when you hold your breath, and see if you can resume your breathing, lightly and easily.

4.  Think before you act.
Take a moment to consider:  is this action safe?  Is there an easier way?  Like it or not, we are all subject to the laws of physics.  Gravity can work for you, or against you.  If you are lifting something (even a purse, briefcase, or diaper bag), face the object and line yourself up with it before you lift it.  That means no picking up something heavy while reaching behind yourself. I see lots of people with very sore shoulders who have hurriedly tried to yank their purse out of the the back seat — an unwise action, resulting in completely preventable pain.  Think, move smart, and keep yourself out of pain.

5. Respect your limits.
If you are in pain, you will not solve your pain problem by ignoring it and pushing through.  I know IT SUCKS to not be able to do what you want, exactly as you want.  Tough.  This is reality.  When you feel yourself getting tired, or knocking at the door of pain, BACK OFF.  Work for shorter periods of time, and take frequent breaks so that you can rest.  It’s the RESTING that helps you recover — NOT some ego-driven idea of “refusing to acknowledge defeat.”

Frequently, people with persistent pain will have a day when the terrible dull ache lifts.  It’s as if the sun comes out.  They actually feel GOOD.  And on that day, the person will try to do everything that has been delayed, piling up, postponed.  They go non-stop for several hours, shopping, gardening, doing housework, cleaning the garage, socializing.  And the next day, they are worse off than before.  This discouraging cycle can be stopped if you pay attention to your limits and stay within them.

6.  Change your position frequently.
Human beings are not meant to be still or stuck in one position — no matter how “correct” you believe it to be.  For example: Your concept of good posture, handed down from parents, teachers, or your drill sergeant, might be too rigid and too generic to work for the long haul for you.  Fidget in your seat, get up and walk around, slowly and gently move your shoulders, arms and legs.  Extreme stretching, or quick movements to crack yourself, will not produce the long-term solution you seek.  Keep moving, just a little, to keep comfortable.

7.  Learn how to move, your way, from a Feldenkrais teacher.
You can make significant progress to improve your situation by exploring these experiments on your own.  However, if you need a little guidance, you can see a Feldenkrais teacher to help you learn more ways to move and live without pain. As you learn new ways of moving — or reconnect with the effortlessness you felt when you were younger — you can learn your way to a more comfortable existence.

[The preceding post is not intended as a substitute for medical advice or treatment where advised.  If your pain does not subside within a reasonable time, consult your healthcare provider.]

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What are we doing here?

ImageIt’s January 1, 2012 — a time when people are reflecting, resolving, reacting, re-treading, rebooting . . .

And so, I thought it might be a good time to clarify for myself, and for you, Dear Reader, what I intend to be doing here.

You’ll notice the tag line at the top of the website, underneath the title “The Feldenkrais® Center of Houston.”  It says, “Open to Possibilities. . .”

You might or might not know what Feldenkrais is, and “Open to Possibilities. . .” might or might not make you curious about what’s going on here.  So here’s my attempt at a short summary.

My audience is people who are “stuck.”  Dissatisfied in some way, wanting more for their lives.  Some of them are in physical or emotional pain, or both.  Some are on a frustrating plateau of achievement in their jobs or hobbies. In either a literal or metaphorical sense, they can’t move. They are people with a fundamental awareness that they might be able to discover and learn something new that will help.  If you’re stuck, you need new possibilities.

SomaQuest helps people to discover or create new possibilities in their lives, their thoughts, their emotions, and in their actions. The posts on this blog reflect on daily life, and on using a specific set of tools, known as The Feldenkrais Method®, to live a happier, better, more highly functional LIFE.

The major tools used by the Feldenkrais Method are 1. your brain, and 2. your body. Get the two working together, and you have 3. movement, and the “special sauce” is 4. awareness.  With these four tools, you can drastically reduce or eliminate your experience of pain; improve your posture, balance, and coordination; clarify your thinking to lead to effective and intelligent actions; enjoy a sense of child-like wonder and exploration in all that you do.  Whatever it is that you enjoy, that gives your life meaning — these tools can make it, and you, better.

I write a lot about how the Feldenkrais Method can help people.  I also write about food, cooking, culture, travel, people-watching, technology and gadgets, the arts, self-expression, relationships, and random streams of consciousness. Everything is fair game for reflection, and for exploring new possibilities. 

Continuing to Resound – #resound11

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For this, the first blog post of 2012, I’m revisiting the old “looking backward, looking forward” theme. Last year had many challenges, and its share of unhappiness and struggle. However, it was also sprinkled with miracles, fortuitous turns — yes, blessings. As objectively as I can assess it one day removed, 2011 WAS a good year. And 2012 will be even better!

From the point of view of this blog, I owe a huge debt of gratitude to the generators of writing prompts that inspired me:  #reverb 10, #reverb11, and #resound11.  Many more readers found my writing this year than would have otherwise if I had not put myself and my work “out there” (wherever “there” is) in this way.  I wrote almost 200,000 words in 2011.  Whew!  Do I feel a pressure to surpass that in 2012?  Maybe a little.

However, realistically and philosophically (and in an added bonus, supported by the evidence of my past performance) I know that “more” is not necessarily “better.”  There’s way too much pompous bloviating in the world, and I’m loathe to contribute to that.  I write for myself, for my own enjoyment and reflection.  I am thrilled when others find me and sometimes resonate with my point of view.  But that’s the bonus, not the major payoff.

I didn’t write every day in 2011, nor on every day of #resound11.  Perhaps having the goal of a weekly post is more do-able for 2012 — and it’s a goal that I can easily overachieve.  The daily discipline has never been something I have had much luck with.  I am content to move closer and closer to that ideal.  But something very curious happened during December 2011.  As I reflected and wrote, I found myself becoming more engaged with my own life, off the computer and away from the screen. My usual holiday blues never arrived! This year, I had no time for the emptiness I felt in the past.  I didn’t just fill it up with junk.  It filled itself with better ideas and actions.  2011 held the happiest holidays I have experienced in many, many years.

So, here’s the list of links to my posts from #resound11.  Thank you for dropping by, for reading, and for commenting.  I’m going to keep writing, and writing often.  For me, it is a creative action that renews itself, and me, the more I do it. Take that, 2012!

Resound! 2011/12/01

One Word 2011/12/01

Vices 2011/12/02

Virtues 2011/12/03

Superpower 2011/12/04

Work in Progress 2011/12/05

Friendship 2011/12/07

Catch Phrase 2011/12/08

More 2011/12/11

Best Meal 2011/12/11

12 Things 2011/12/12

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12 Things – #resound11

What are 12 things your life doesn’t need in 2012?  How will you go about eliminating them?  How will getting rid of these 12 things change your life? (Props to original Author: Sam Davidson). If you did Reverb10, how are you making out on your 11 Things from last year? (reverb11)

OR

Take today to talk about 12 things you would like to accomplish in 2012. . . (#resound11)

Last year, I listed 11 things I could do without in 2011.  They were:

  1. Sugar.
  2. Clutter.
  3. Paper.
  4. Time wasters
  5. Discouragement.
  6. Fear.
  7. Bullshit.
  8. Email updates from organizations I’m no longer interested in.
  9. Worry.
  10. Tangeants — unless they look fun.
  11. Activities, objects, and relationships that do not contribute to my sense of well-being, wholeness, and happiness: social, spiritual, financial, physical, emotional, intellectual, professional, personal, recreational.
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    How am I doing?  I’ve found they are all of the works-in-progress variety, and I believe each category has inspired major improvements in the past year.  I am more mindful and consciously choosing LESS in the sugar (including alcohol), clutter, paper, time wasters, discouragement, fear, bullshit, and unnecessary emails categories. Numbers 6 and 9 are constant battlegrounds, but I am aware sooner when I start getting myself all wound up about something.  I feel healthier and happier overall. This is still a good list for the coming year.

Number 11 was an area of major growth last year.  I pruned away a lot of my “social network” and relentless busyness in favor of quality relationships that actually had a mutual benefit.  I think number 11 is a good standard from which to operate in the coming year.  I may be more ruthless about it.  Those things that do not contribute to my sense of well-being are probably hold-overs from the other categories, especially numbers 4 and 7.  I need to “calls ‘em like I sees ‘em” earlier, and more often.
What to add to the list for 2012?  Twelve is a rich symbolic number, signifying completeness and universality.  Into the vacuum created by all this doing less, the universe will rush.   More celebration, more travel, more quality, more learning, more collaboration, more harmony, more rest, more appreciation, more gratitude, more acceptance, more health, and more love.  Those are 12 things that will be a good foundation for the coming year.
[I am blogging daily (ish) during December as part of #reverb11 and #resound11.  Join us here.]
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Best Meal – #resound11

What is the best meal or best food that you have eaten all year? Did you make it? Did you get it at a restaurant? Do your best to describe the food and the experience with us.

If I’ve already told you this, please forgive the re-telling of the story.

I still get excited thinking about the best meal of the year, which was our Thanksgiving dinner.  It was a personal, all-time best in the “Holiday Meals” category.  Even more importantly, the meal was shared with family and friends whom we cherish.

First, the food.

Thanksgiving DinnerEverybody knows there is only one way to make a proper Thanksgiving dinner:  and that is the way you had it when you were a kid.  Marital discord arises when different traditions clash. That’s not how MY mom made it. . .

Thankfully, I’m over that — and so are my adult children.  I’ve been delighted in the past 10 years to discover, despite a highly invested story put forth by my ex-mother-in-law that I was somehow incapable of cooking Thanksgiving dinner, or didn’t want to, or couldn’t be bothered; that I am a damn good cook and can crank out a Thanksgiving dinner with the best of them.  New traditions have evolved since my divorce.  The only thing my kids (now 28 and 23) insist upon are the bread stuffing they grew up with (my mom’s recipe, unwritten but passed down by oral tradition and eyeballing it), lots of wine, and at least one pumpkin pie.  I think everything else is negotiable.

This year, I was open for something new.  I consulted the ultimate food guru, Alton Brown.  Every one of his recipes is reliable and totally delicious, so I decided to put our Thanksgiving fate in his hands.  I purchased a minimally-processed turkey and chose to brine it.  I had not had a proper roasting pan, so purchased one, with a rack, for the day.  My parents had not used a rack — just put the bird right into the pan, breast up, and away we went.  Let me tell you, I am now an enthusiastic convert to rack use — what a difference it made! In the spirit of adventure, I started preparations the afternoon before, and followed Alton Brown’s directions.  After brineing the turkey overnight, then cooking it at 500 degrees for 30 minutes, and then down to 350 for the remainder of the time, our 15-pound turkey was done in 2.5 hours, tender and falling off the bone, with an actual flavor that I had not dreamed possible for turkey.  And, if you look up “golden brown” in the dictionary, you will see a picture of our perfect turkey.

In another innovation for this year, I actually made gravy.  You see, gravy has been a murky mystery, fraught with cross-motivations, since my youth.  My Dad always made giblet gravy, and I thought it was the absolute grossest and most vile-tasting substance imaginable.  I could never get on that gravy train.  However, this year the pan drippings looked so fantastic that I just had to try — no giblets or neck, thank you very much.  Voila!  Fabulous, rich, dark, turkey gravy.  Unbelievable.

The meal was rounded out on my part with mashed white and sweet potatoes, Alton Brown’s “from scratch” version of the ubiquitous green bean casserole, and an amazing cranberry chatni from one of my new #houstonbloggers friends.  Friends and family brought wine, pies, traditional cranberry sauce (homemade), fabulous challah and a creamed spinach casserole that was to die for.

We feasted.  We laughed.  We took pictures of the turkey.  And we were thankful.  Best meal of the year, hands down.

[I'm blogging daily (ish) during December as part of #resound11.  Join us here.]

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More – #reverb11

What do you wish you had done more of in 2011?

 

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In 2011, I did not travel as much as I have in recent years.  Even though I had good reasons for staying home, I found that I really missed it.

 

I financed two eye surgeries this year, so that is where my funds were allocated.  I skipped the annual conference by my professional association partly for that reason, but mostly because the program just didn’t excite me.  Then, the music festival I had taught at the previous two summers suspended their operations for this year, so that removed another opportunity.

 

Staying home was the right thing to do.  It was wise and prudent.  I also found that I have come to rely on spending a couple of weeks away from home.  The travel recharges my internal emotional and creative “batteries.”   In 2012, I am planning several trips for continuing education, as well as an occasional weekend getaway.  I am also open to the possibility of accepting some out-of-town gigs and expanding my horizons in that way. I look forward to new found “get up and go” potential in the new year!

 

[I am blogging daily (ish) during December as part of #reverb11 and #resound11. Join us here.]

 

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Catch phrase – #resound11

What is your trademark phrase, or a quote or saying that you repeat often?

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My normal schedule throughout the year is to teach four or five Awareness Through Movement classes each week.  I enjoy it because the vocabulary is rich and varied, and I tell my students that “in this class, you’ll always be doing something a little strange. . .”  However, if you were to make a “word cloud” out of one of my lessons, I think the biggest one would surely be

NOTICE.

Not a catch phrase, really — more of an invitation.  Each part of a lesson is like a tiny experiment, or like inventing a recipe.  You add an ingredient, and then “taste it” to see if it what you intended, or if you like it, or if it is interesting.  And then you continue, based on that new information.  In Awareness Through Movement, you are asked to experiment with very gentle, yet non-habitual movements — and then afterwards, to pause and “taste the recipe:”  NOTICE how you feel now.  Notice what is different.  Notice what you sense. Notice what you notice. It’s a very subtle and gentle practice of paying attention, learning to pay attention both specifically and more broadly.

This process is remarkable, and enjoyable.  Through the lessons, people feel less stressed, or move with less pain, or gain better posture (among a slew of other physical benefits).  But more deeply and more importantly, I think, is that they learn how to surprise themselves once again. They learn how to appreciate and enjoy small things.  They become more patient and compassionate and sensitive, with themselves and others.  They discover new capacities and enlarge their thinking to include new ideas and possibilities.  And it all starts with “NOTICE.”

What do you notice?  Please leave a comment.

[I am posting daily (ish) during December as part of #reverb11 and #resound11.  Join us here.]

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Friendship – #resound11

I started writing last night and had to stop. My thoughts were a jumble at the end of the day, and as I tried to get organized, I tapped into some deep emotions — sadness, aloneness, and a strange agitation.

This morning, things look brighter. As I reflect on friendship in the light of day, I feel blessed to have many friends. My friendships are all authentic — meaning, at what ever level of intimacy or familiarity, the enjoyment of time together is genuine and valued.

As I think of current friendships, my upstairs neighbors are probably at the top of the heap. We’ve been through a hurricane together, for Pete’s sake! They are the ones you’d borrow a cup of sugar from, or a corkscrew, or call after a traffic accident, or to bail you out of jail (hypothetically, of course!). It’s not a matter of quantity of time spent with them, but the quality of that time.  My business partners, Paul and Julie, are right up there, too.   I have known them for 10 years now, and it’s hard to express how much I appreciate their friendship and support.

Likewise, my BFF soul-mates, partners in crime across the miles, are people from my own Feldenkrais training in Chicago, now almost 10 years ago. A few are in my inner circle: Craig, Ger, Diane, Kristine. Carla, Joanna, Scott, Christiana, Therese, Dan,Terri. Marian, Ellen, Phyllis, and everyone. Regardless of the frequency of contact, there is a bond and a love there that is extraordinary. I would do anything for any of my “litter mates” from that experience — and I think they would for me, as well.

In this era of social media, it’s so interesting to see which friends from high school have reconnected. It is liberating to be almost 40 years out and free from the bullshit drama of growing up, settled in lives and relationships and careers. I find that now, as then, there is an affinity, a shared history and sense of humor, a context, and an appreciation for them as people. I think if we lived close to each other, we would once again choose each other as friends.

I know how friendships come and go, ebb and flow, fall away, intensify. Friendship has never felt solid, or like a “sure thing” to me. People change, they move away, they die.  I have changed, and moved away, changed status, job, economic bracket — and some friendships, however treasured, turn out to be “location specific.” Nothing is forever, and love and loyalty can’t make it so. For this reason, my friendships are precious to me, right now.

Perhaps that is why, last night, I felt sad and alone. Who are my friends? Who can I let in? Am I really fending for myself in the world? Is there anyone I truly trust? In the dark, I’m not so sure. In the daylight, I can see all the past, current, and prospective friends, and be grateful for them.

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Work in Progress – #resound11

[Today's writing prompt was provided by my friend, Twitter buddy, and fellow #reverb11 #resound11 enthusiast, Head Pickle.]

What’s your take on being a Work in Progress?

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I believe that to view oneself and one’s life as a Work in Progress is the most profoundly hopeful, creative, joyful,  realistic, and compassionate view possible.  I can’t remember when I truly embraced this attitude, but I’ll bet it came along as I got deeper and more committed in my practice and study of the Feldenkrais Method.

You see, this Method is about learning: learning how to figure things out for oneself, learning to be curious and to look for new possibilities.  The Method does not demand that anything be done “perfectly,” especially not the first time you attempt it.  The Feldenkrais Method has some wisdom in it, helping people to discover that in the fruitless pursuit of perfection, you NEVER get there — the goalposts always move.  And so, our purpose is improvement.  ”The potential for improvement is infinite,” as Dr. Moshe Feldenkrais said.

Feldenkrais also said, “Everything that is learned, we learn by successive approximations.”  Successive approximation means that you give something a go, and then see how it went.  On the next go, you do it a little differently, learning from the first go to see if it will be better.  On the next go, if it was better, you tweak what you are doing again to keep improving.  If it wasn’t better, you change course and try another approach. And, you keep going. This process is experimental and exploratory.  It is basically the Scientific Method, applied to life.  You have an idea what the result *might* be, but you don’t know until you try.  The goal is not perfection (perfection of what?), but understanding, knowledge, getting just a bit closer to the idea you have.  This way of learning is engaging, motivating, and enjoyable.

Think about a baby learning to walk.  She rises to her feet with delight, and wobbles for a moment, a look of glee on her face.  Then she sits back down.  After a few dozen or hundred re-enactments of this, learning and refining each time, she is able to lift one foot off the floor (requiring a complex sensory operation of transferring all her weight to the other foot), takes a step — and falls down.  Repeat another few hundred times, and eventually, she walks.  No baby ever gives up on learning how to walk!

It is easy to forget that we all went through this process; and that there was about a year of process leading up to the moment of standing, that included lifting your head, rolling over, sitting up, coming onto one knee, crawling. . .  And no parent stands before their about-to-toddle child and says, “You could do better!  Is that the best you can do?  What’s wrong with you?  You’re embarrassing me, walking that way!”  Parents don’t sign their kids up for “remedial walking lessons.” No.  We find the baby’s exploratory process utterly fascinating, charming, amazing.  We honor the process, confident that she will figure it out eventually.

Why don’t we honor our selves in the same way?

As we grow into adulthood and become more integrated into family and society, we become enmeshed in the expectations of others.  It seems like as soon as a kid can walk, we stop valuing the learning process, and they become fair game for criticism.  Many people’s first feelings of shame and inadequacy date back to early childhood, when they felt that they had fallen short of some expectation by a parent or other teacher.

Dr. Brené Brown writes and speaks about perfection and shame for a living. To paraphrase one small bit of her shared wisdom:  she says it is tempting to hold your child in your arms and be completely consumed with the perfection of this little one, and to see your job as a parent to protect them and keep them perfect. Brené says, that’s not your job at all.  Realize that this child is hard-wired for struggle, destined to find their own way.  Your job as a parent is to love them all the way, as they work through it.

Each child is a work in progress, and come to think of it, so is each adult.  To be willing to learn and fail occasionally (“there is no failure, only information”), knowing that it WILL BE BETTER next time, makes us resilient and hopeful for the future.  The Feldenkrais Method has helped me to embrace and embody this resilience, and to share it with others.

This “Work in Progress” thing goes both ways.  I don’t get a “PASS” on the perfection requirement while I hold you to it.  This part is harder.  However, approaching life as a series of learnings, and that everything is learned by successive approximations, makes for a much happier and higher-functioning existence.

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