#reverb10 – Day 8 – Different

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December 8 – Beautifully Different. Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful. (Author: Karen Walrond)

What makes me different?

Now that I am in my mid-50’s, I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about this.

I am different.  Everyone is different.

“Different” is a relative term, and assumes that someone is doing the comparison.  At this point, I rarely compare myself to others — and I’ve stopped trying to please everybody.  The list of what is truly important in my life is astonishingly brief.

While I have challenges and concerns like everyone else, I am basically a happy person, and the bottom line is that I am contented.  Make no mistake — I am energetic, highly motivated, and constantly look for ways to improve.  This quest for improvement, however, is not based on a sense of fault or deficiency, but rather to enhance experience and enjoy myself and others more. I love my work and am dedicated to doing it well — but I no longer chase success or the favorable opinions of others.  It seems that having stopped chasing, the things that previously eluded me now appear in abundance.  I have the luxury of doing many things because I want to, and almost nothing because I have to.  I pick my battles carefully, instead of trying to fight everything.

I’ve hung in through enough history and personal hard times to emerge on the other side and feel good about myself and where I am.  Perhaps you have to be a bit older to have this perspective.

The relative maturity of my perspective makes me a voice of calm and experience for my younger friends.  By no means do I think I’ve got it all figured out, or that I have “arrived” at some peak, or that I think of myself as an example.  I’m just a bit farther down the road.

I’m just doing my thing, trying to be as happy as I can be. This attitude helps me to love and accept myself so I can do the same for others. Perhaps that’s what makes me different.

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16 thoughts on “#reverb10 – Day 8 – Different

    1. It’s definitely a process, a life’s work — and sometimes a fragile process, at that. I do try to practice gratitude and acknowledgment every day — which leads to a sense of contentment. I think if we just keep showing up, we’ll be headed in a good direction! Thank you, Jyllian!

  1. “I am energetic, highly motivated, and constantly look for ways to improve.”

    I think this is a big part of what makes you beautiful to me. You’re right, as we get further down the road that is life, I think we learn that everyone is different, and that different is a matter of perspective, and that beauty isn’t just what the media says it is, but something so much deeper than that.

    I think you are beautiful!

  2. I loved this. And I believe beauty does radiate from that sense of peace and calm you possess. I’m 37. I’m still “getting there” but hopefully facing in the right direction’

  3. You are an amazing and beautiful woman who radiates happiness and light. I’ve always thought and said this about you. I’m so happy to know you the little bit that I do. I’m grateful to have befriended you on FB and I love to read your writings. I consider you an inspiration.

    Please continue to go boldly forth and spread the power of your love in the Universe. The world needs more people who radiate like you.

    1. Indeed, Sandra, thank you! Acceptance of self, of others, of things just as we find them — creates the possibility for change. Feldenkrais is a great way to learn this acceptance thing, isn’t it? Thanks for taking the time to comment!

  4. “I’ve hung in through enough history and personal hard times to emerge on the other side and feel good about myself and where I am.” I like that! It’s great to reach that point in life, isn’t it. It took me over 1/2 a lifetime to be able to say that I feel good about myself. I hope many younger people can say it a lot sooner.

    You are also unique in sharing your approximate age. Most of us women aren’t quite as willing to give that up online or in person. 🙂

    1. heehee thank you! And I join you in your hope for younger people.
      As for my age, I want to get to be really, really old. I just don’t want to FEEL old. So far, so good.
      Thanks for your comment!

  5. Hello again! 🙂 Thanks for visiting my blog. As I learn more about you I realize there was someone in my life several years ago who has a lot in common with you! Her name is Carol McAmis and when I was at Ithaca College for my undergraduate degree (clarinet performance), she taught voice and Feldenkrais. I took the Feldenkrais class and learned a lot … when I didn’t crash and fall asleep! To this day I utilize so much of the movement/awareness I discovered in my performance and practice postures while practicing Feldenkrais lessons. Just thought I’d let you know! 🙂

    1. Wow, that is majorly cool! I know Carol McAmis well, although we’ve never met in person. She was one of the first people I began to follow soon after I began flirting with Feldenkrais. 🙂 We have corresponded occasionally over the years, and are certainly kindred spirits! You may have been in school at the same time as Jessica Smith, fabulous singer who spent some time in Houston; and Dominic DiOrio, singer and composer who has recently come to town — and we connected over mutual friends, music, Feldenkrais, and Carol. SO fun!
      Thanks so much for the delightful connection! AND — you’ve inspired me to drop a note to Carol, too.

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