December 8 – Beautifully Different. Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful. (Author: Karen Walrond)
What makes me different?
Now that I am in my mid-50’s, I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about this.
I am different. Everyone is different.
“Different” is a relative term, and assumes that someone is doing the comparison. At this point, I rarely compare myself to others — and I’ve stopped trying to please everybody. The list of what is truly important in my life is astonishingly brief.
While I have challenges and concerns like everyone else, I am basically a happy person, and the bottom line is that I am contented. Make no mistake — I am energetic, highly motivated, and constantly look for ways to improve. This quest for improvement, however, is not based on a sense of fault or deficiency, but rather to enhance experience and enjoy myself and others more. I love my work and am dedicated to doing it well — but I no longer chase success or the favorable opinions of others. It seems that having stopped chasing, the things that previously eluded me now appear in abundance. I have the luxury of doing many things because I want to, and almost nothing because I have to. I pick my battles carefully, instead of trying to fight everything.
I’ve hung in through enough history and personal hard times to emerge on the other side and feel good about myself and where I am. Perhaps you have to be a bit older to have this perspective.
The relative maturity of my perspective makes me a voice of calm and experience for my younger friends. By no means do I think I’ve got it all figured out, or that I have “arrived” at some peak, or that I think of myself as an example. I’m just a bit farther down the road.
I’m just doing my thing, trying to be as happy as I can be. This attitude helps me to love and accept myself so I can do the same for others. Perhaps that’s what makes me different.