Talking, or Texting?

Having read an interesting question: “Do you prefer to talk, or text?”  I am once again intrigued by context. Perhaps lit’s because I am a writer, or perhaps because my thinking is influenced by the Feldenkrais Method. A simple question, “This, or that?” is not so simple, after all. I have to answer, “For what purpose? When?”

“Talk or text” doesn’t seem like a preference, as “Boxers, or briefs?” is. I love to text for the fast-and-dirty, need-info-or-your-attention-NOW kind of communication. I like to talk only if I am sure the other person has time for a more in-depth conversation.  The question also presumes a context of  what we might call “device-based communication.”  In-person, face-to-face is not what is being addressed here.  As we are increasingly mobile, we literally do things “on the run,” or “remotely.” Right now, I am away from my office, waiting at Half Price Books for their assessment of the value of the books I brought in to sell, and blogging on my iPad. If you had asked me even a year ago if such a thing were even possible – let alone that I would be doing it, I would have said you were nuts! With so many contact options and styles open to us (talk in person, talk on the phone, email, chat, text, smoke signals, tea leaves), our communications and our relationships are subject to much finer distinctions.

My new clients frequently ask me the same abstract questions: “What is the best way to ______? Which is the RIGHT way to ______?” My answer must be, “It depends.” We can, and must, adapt virtually every action to the present circumstances. Your body alignment wil be very different if you are walking down the street, or looking under your bed for a lost shoe. Your breathing will be different if you are sleeping, sprinting, singing, or giving birth. The Feldenkrais Method helps you to discover your own best way to turn your intentions into actions.

How about you?  Is “Talk or Text” a simple question for you to answer?  What do you prefer, and why?  I’d love your take on the topic, so please leave a comment. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ll text my daughter to see if she is free for lunch on Friday.



One thought on “Talking, or Texting?

  1. I tend to text or email, especially if I know the person prefers to receive info or questions that way or if I know the person is working and may be unavailable to talk. I talk to my parents and sister as they don’t do text. I also email both of those parties. I talk to my husband who will, teasingly, text me while sitting right next to me.

    I have no personal preference for how to communicate. Texting and email do not take the energy that talking requires. They are also more convenient as far as reading and responding when it works for me. It is always nice to hear a voice and connect at that level with another person. I do not like talking to a machine; I consider it rude even though I am use to it.

    I don’t like to see or experience talking, texting, or email if I am at dinner or engaged in a conversation with someone. Sometimes, it is important enough to interrupt but rarely. Again, it feels rude and like what the person and I have going is not as important as what they might get going with another person.

    How did we live in the stone ages when none of this communication was available? Sometimes, it is good to disconnect just to remember we can. However, I like the ability to contact another person when I need/want but I respect their right to not respond right back. The ability to stay so connected provides both a safety net for people who live alone or travel a lot. It can also provide worrying when one is unable to make contact quickly.

    I don’t think our world has adapted to all the availability provided by having all these connections. I think it will become better after we’ve lived with it for a few years.

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